Research and Development is a constant phrase used in conversations regarding cancer in an effort to find a cure or how to prevent cancer. With the countless hours and money spent in research for the different types of cancer, nobody has been able to truly pinpoint who will get cancer. All data illustrates that Cancer does not discriminate against age, gender, color, race, religion, and so forth. None of us know why we get cancer. It just happens and when it does there is no turning back. I have heard many different people have several theories about Cancer. For example, one theory is that as humans we all have it in us but it is dormant until it gets activated. Another example is that Cancer is the result of depression and stress caused by a traumatic event in our life like the loss of a loved one. Of course, none of those theories have any scientific proof. It is just our way as humans to make sense of something we don’t really understand. At the beginning of my Cancer diagnosis, I asked myself “why did I get Cancer?” but ultimately the answer was Cancer happens and in my personal case with no warning. The only symptom I had was being sick with a “cold” which as it turns out was only the beginning of my Cancer journey. Life is so fragile and it can completely change in a blink of an eye. I never really understood those phrases till I was faced head on with my own mortality. Suddenly you realize that the trivial everyday things that you would stress about constantly are not really that important. You learn that you must cherish everything and everyone you have in your life right now because tomorrow is never guaranteed. Don’t sweat the small stuff in life, things will work out, all you have to do is to trust and have faith in God. God never gives us more then we can handle. Everything that happens in your life is for a reason whether you want to believe it or not.
Cancer happened to me and I didn’t expect it or know how to handle it and neither did my loved ones. Nobody is ready for Cancer and all you have to do is take it one day at a time. Don’t overthink on the “why” you got Cancer, focus your energies on the daily battle and cherishing every moment that you can with a positive attitude. Focus on what you can do to help yourself stay strong during your Cancer battle such as laughter. They say laughter is the best medicine and take it from me, sometimes it is. Laugh as much as you can! Laugh like you have never laughed before until your “non-existing” abs hurt and tears run down your face.
For all those reading this, God bless you and take care of yourself and your loved ones.